If you're new to the 30s club or a long-term member, increased pressures often come with the territory. Whether it be your mother's pleas for you to find a nice man to settle down with already, and to have children or the most common pressure that modern women face – to do it all, it's no wonder that many of us approach our 30s with a certain degree of dread.
Single and 30
You've reached your 30s, most of your friends are married, some have children and you're living single. If you're happy where you are, no problem – embrace your freedom and tell well-meaning friends and relatives to leave you alone (in the most diplomatic but firm way possible). But if external pressures reflect the way you're actually feeling and you're ready to meet the right person, continue living a full life but make sure you're clear about what you're looking for in a partner so that you can attract the man you want.
Having it all
So you've crossed off all the items on your "Things I want to have by the time I reach 30" list but now you're paying the price for having it all. Clinical psychologist Sherona Rawat offers tips to have a good work and home life and find balance even when it seems illusive:
1. Ask yourself: why am I choosing to work? And what I would do for my family if I was a stay-at-home mom? Reach a compromise within yourself and then make peace with it.
2. Write a profile of who you are and then embrace not only your good qualities, but also those you perceive as bad.
3. Make time for yourself first, then your spouse and children. Remember to fit in alone adult time for you and your spouse and quality time for you and the kids.
4. Make a strict schedule and pencil in work time, personal time and family time, no matter how small the slot, and tick them off as you move through your schedule for that day.
5. Start the day with a positive affirmation such as "I am going to be the best that I can be today" and end the day with the thought "I did the best with what I had at my disposal today". And then let it go.