If you are 28 or older, then you could be the envy of your younger counterparts. A recent survey has revealed that women enjoy sex more at that age, while men peak at the age of 33.
The study was conducted by www.lovehoney.co.uk. According to the survey, women had the most sex at 25 and men at 29. The poll also discovered that females lost their virginity at an average age of 17 and men at 18.
Over a thousand people were interviewed for the survey. Relationship expert Tracey Cox told www.dailymail.co.uk that, like most things, sex gets better the more you do it and the more practised you are at it.
"It makes sense for men to be having better sex at 33 rather than 18. It takes time to learn how to control their orgasms and to fathom the complex female sexual system. This reinforces what we’ve always known: it’s not about quantity, it is about quality. We tend to have the most sex at the start of relationships when desire is fresh, and the best sex once we’re more in tune with our bodies and our partner. Despite the female sexual system being far more complex than a man’s, women are discovering what works and doesn’t faster than men," Cox says.
The following tips from clinical sexologist Leandie Buys will help you enrich your intimate relationship regardless of your age:
• Change your attitude towards sex and fall in love again
Remember sex encourages health and intimacy. The human sex drive is strongly influenced by chemicals in our bodies that respond to messages in our brains. We are not at the mercy of our hormones. We can regulate our sexual urges and responses by how we think about sex. The more sex you have, the more sex you want. Sex is the ultimate libido arouser. If you desire a good sex life, change your attitude and think sexual thoughts, which may very well result in more sex and general well-being.
• Focus on being sensual before being sexual
To have a better sex life you need to learn to use your senses. Sex is a sensational experience, but you have to remind yourself not to dampen all the senses under the blankets. Relax, give yourself over to the smell of his aftershave, listen to his breathing, touch his body, taste his mouth and, most importantly, use your eyes to get stimulated. Do you remember how you used to snuggle up together and “smooch” while you were still dating? Do it again.
• Make spending quality time together and romance a priority
Planning intimacy doesn't ruin it. It ensures that it will take place. Why not bring in a rule of “10 minutes us-time”, which mean connecting for 10 minutes when getting home from work before continuing with the rest of your household chores. One of the biggest reasons for infidelity is that couples don’t connect any more.
• Look sexy, feel sexy
Even if you’ve had a long day at work or have spent the whole afternoon cleaning up after the kids, you need to make yourself look sexy before you feel sexy. If your partner has planned a romantic evening for the two of you, make sure you spend some me-time with yourself before going out. Pamper yourself with a relaxing bubble bath, wear something that emphasises your best features and put on heels. Knowing that you look good will help you feel good and feeling good will help you to forget about the long day you’ve had and enjoy the rest of the evening.
• Be the initiator
Men will be much more obliging in the foreplay department if they know their partner really wants to have sex. Men often think that their partners are just humouring them and want to get it over with as soon as possible. If you want your partner to be more intimate and put more effort into pleasuring you, be the initiator. Take charge and tell him exactly what you want, where and when. He will love the new game and you will have the opportunity to teach him how to treat you in bed.