Singer and actress Nandi Mngoma
Mngoma says now that she’s a mother, she realises how much her own mother has sacrificed. She says although her mum always put family first, she didn’t deprive herself and made sure she lived her life to the fullest. “She taught me the skill of balance – realising your dreams, whilst still being an amazing mother,” she says.
The biggest lesson her mum has taught her is that if you’re fulfilled as an individual – fulfilling your dreams and aspirations – you become a better mother. “She taught me that once you’re whole, healthy and take care of your mind body and soul, you become a better parent – a lesson I will forever carry with me,” she says.
She adds that through her mother’s teachings, she’s learnt that all parents are human and no-one is perfect. “We’re all learning. As long as you share and show love, you’re on the right track in terms of being a good parent,” she says.
Lockdown actress Zola Nombona
Nombona says her mother is very grounded and hasn’t changed one bit since she met her. “I love that my mother is old school – she doesn’t go with the times,” she says.
“My mother’s love is beyond unconditional – she’s supportive and open, especially with regard to my career. She respects me and my craft,” she says.
Nombona adds that her mother believes that she has the potential and drive to achieve anything and everything to which she puts her mind. “Every time I go for an audition, my mum always says I’m going to get the role, because in her eyes, there’s nothing I cannot do,” she says.
Nombona is also grateful that at this stage in her life, their relationship has evolved and grown so that they are able to have conversations about relationships and men. “We aren’t friends – we have boundaries because she’s still my mother, but she understands I’ve grown and advises me on issues. Also, I appreciate the fact that my mother allows me to make my own decisions – although they’re always guided by her words of wisdom.”
The three most valuable lessons Nombona has learnt from her mother are to:
- Always believe in herself
- Be original and authentic to her true self
Radio presenter Hulisani Ravele
Ravele says there’s nothing her mother has not sacrificed to make sure she has opportunities and access to a better life. “My mum is selfless – she will buy and do anything for me without even thinking about her financial situation,” she says.
“She puts everyone first – basically carries the whole nation – with such grace and strength. She’s everything – she’s gold,” she says.
The four most valuable lessons Ravele has learnt from her mother are:
- Forgiveness. Ravele says her mother has a very forgiving heart and passed this capacity on to her.
- Patience. She says her mum understands that no-one is perfect. “She’s taught me to take a moment to think, feel whatever I need to feel and then let it go and move on before it consumes me,” she says.
- Strength. Through watching her mother go through difficult times, Ravele says she has learnt that she’s stronger than she realises.
- To always show up. “My mum shows up for everyone, whether it’s a graduation, funeral of a distant relative or a family lunch – she will be there. Even it means leaving work early to take a taxi to get there and staying until late, even though she’s working the next day,” she says.
Isibaya actor Abdul Khoza
“My mother is very loving – she’ll always put herself aside and sacrifice whatever she needs to to ensure we all get what we need,” says Khoza.
He says he also appreciates his mum’s cooking, especially because he’s a vegetarian. He says his mother is everything to him. He adds that she’s also an amazing grandmother.
The most important lesson Khoza has learnt from his mother:
“She’s taught me that if something is meant for you, you will get it. You’ll always get whats yours,” Khoza says.
He adds that his mum has also taught him how to maintain a household and cook, clean, do his laundry, iron and so on. “It’s helped with survival. Although it was torture at the time, these skills have come in handy,” he says.