In her memoir, We’re Going to Need More Wine (HarperCollins), quoted exclusively in the latest issue of People magazine, Being Mary Jane star Gabrielle Union has revealed that she has been struggling to conceive.
“I have had eight or nine miscarriages. For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant — I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”
Union tied the knot with her basketball player sweetheart Dwyane Wade in 2014. Wade has three sons from his previous marriage.
Union says she didn’t want children until until she met Wade’s kids.
“I never wanted kids. Then I became a stepmum, and there was no place I’d rather be than with them,” she said.
Union added that her struggle with infertility encouraged speculation on whether she was pregnant.
“Once a month, I look like I’m in my second trimester because I’m bloated,” she told People. “It leads to the questions and it leads to the rumors and anytime I go into a doctor’s office I feel like I’m a member of Seal Team Six undercover, because I don’t want people to speculate.”
In the October 2015 issue of Redbook magazine, cited in DESTINY, Union opened up about the possibility of never having a family of her own because she chose building a career over having a child in her younger years.
“There’s a certain amount of shame that is placed on women who have perhaps chosen a career over starting a family younger. The penance for being a career woman is barrenness. You feel like you’re wearing a scarlet letter,” she says in the interview.
Union also touched on how women who choose to have children while still building their careers don’t have it easy either. “The reality is that women are discriminated against in the workplace for being mothers. As much as there are strides being made – you get pregnant, your career takes a hit. You can’t have a bad day. Don’t you dare cry at work. Don’t raise your voice. Especially if you’re a black woman in corporate America – now you’re ‘the angry black woman’,” she explained.