Don’t let year-end stress into your bedroom

In the run-up to the festive season, the stress and pressure of year-end deadlines can take their toll. Here’s how to make sure your sex life doesn’t suffer

At this time of year, it’s sometimes hard to leave work pressures at the office door. “When we experience physical, mental or emotional distress, the hypothalamus releases a flood of adrenaline and cortisol – known as ‘distress hormones’ – into the system,” Dr John Demartini told DestinyConnect. “This prepares the body for the perceived threat, and is known as the ‘fight-or-flight response’. Our strength and stamina temporarily increase as our reaction time is shortened and our senses become heightened. This reaction can temporarily enhance the body’s focus and coping capabilities.”

However, stress can have an enormous impact on your libido and performance in the bedroom. Don’t let relationship woes be another reason to worry. Try these tips to reignite the passion in your relationship. After all, sex is a great way to relax.

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Remember the past. Sometimes we get so caught up in life’s daily grind that it’s easy to forget why you fell in love. Try to reconnect with your partner by chatting about those early days and the small things that sparked your passion. Read them again together. Was it intellectual stimulation? Engage in that kind of conversation again. If it was his laugh, reintroduce more humour into your life. Paying attention to your partner’s needs should encourage reciprocal behaviour. You’ll both reap the rewards.

Make the time.Yes, it is a busy time of year, but don’t neglect your relationship. Set aside time for each other at least twice a month. It doesn’t have to be a special occasion. Cook together or go out on a date and do something that you both enjoy. Quality time can go a long way towards ensuring a happy relationship.

Look good, feel good. Maintaining your appearance through an active and healthy lifestyle enables you to feel and look desirable. A strong sense of self-worth contributes to feeling good about yourself, and there’s nothing sexier than confidence.

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Be silly.Forget the household chores and money, work and family responsibilities for a moment. Keep having fun together and laugh at the small things. Little touches of affection and showing that you care also go a long way towards maintaining a strong bond.

Try something new. Add some excitement to your sex life: try a new position, new lingerie, sex toys or perhaps something else if you’re more adventurous. You’ll be glad you did.