When you put single women together in a room and ask them to talk about relationships, you’ll probably know their “type” within minutes.
Some of us like buff men oozing with confidence who can sweep us off our feet, while others like timid, scrawny guys. There simply are no rules.
While dating men with similar character traits, mannerisms or even looks isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it becomes detrimental when the relationship drains you or when the same type of toxic behaviour is displayed in different relationships. In essence, your dating habits are toxic and could be holding you back from finding true love.
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Often we’re unaware that we’re dating a specific type of guy, but almost everyone has that brutally honest friend who will bring this point to light. If you don’t, you’ll identify your type on your own eventually.
Author Paul C Brunson says: “There are things we should know about our character and personality that make us susceptible to attracting and staying with unbalanced partners. It is important to pay attention to this, because doing so can help bring healthier people into your life.”
Toxic dating habits will cause more harm than you can imagine. Here’s how you’ll know that it’s time to change your type because he’s toxic:
Your personal growth takes a knock
If all your relationships are leaving with the same wave of negative emotions, it puts a damper on your personal growth. If you find yourself stagnating as a result of failed relationships, it might be time to reconsider your next move. Quite often, dating the same type of man is more about you than it is about them. While everyone in the dating pool has preferences when it comes to looks, characteristics, age, etc, you could find yourself in a lot of trouble if your preference takes away from your happiness instead of adding to it.
You reject new or different types
Do you cringe or roll your eyes whenever a man who you normally won’t go for approaches you? Aggressively rejecting every single person who’s not your type may mean that you’re hooked on a certain kind of man. When women have been prone to abuse – whether it be verbal, emotional or physical – they have a tendency to shy away from men who make their intentions known.
You have unrest within yourself
Toxic dating habits will leave you caught up in a whirlwind of emotions. One day you’ll feel beautiful and appreciated for being the amazing woman you are, and the next, you’ll feel utterly worthless. A toxic man will manipulate you into believing you’re the latter. Get away – fast! If you suspect that you may be addicted to a type who feeds off you rather than helps you develop, don’t be afraid to be single while you find yourself.
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In essence, if your type drains you and makes you feel less than the special woman you are, run! It’s time to redefine yourself and build healthy relationships.