Are you setting yourself up for failure by making resolutions? Here's how to set achievable goals for 2013.
You're bursting with plans and ideas for 2013 and have a list of resolutions you know you'll achieve this year (even though last year didn't work out quite as you'd planned). Are you fooling yourself or should you change the way you approach the new year?
We chat to counselling psychologist Nthabiseng Ramothwala about whether or not you should set resolutions and how to deal with unmet goals.
Ramothwala stresses the need to differentiate between resolutions and goals. "Resolutions are things that you wish to achieve or change in a period of time. They are not goals and therefore do not have proper plans," she explains. "When you make resolutions, you're not setting yourself up for failure, but putting your wishes down and mentally committing to doing something to achieve them."
Ramothwala says making resolutions can have the following positive and negative consequences:
Ramothwala offers advice when setting attainable resolutions:
It's easy to feel despondent if you don't make your resolutions reality. "If you don't attain your resolutions, assess why you could not and make a back-up plan," says Ramothwala. "Don't be too hard on yourself and rather start afresh. Stay on course, regardless of how hard it may be. Should you fall off, get on the horse again and never pressurise yourself. Have a personal pace not determined by others, and enjoy the journey!"