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A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF
SINGLE AND LOVING IT !!! CONTRACT
 
 
This love thing is so complicated and when you the only single one amongst your friends it really feels more complicated because they try their best to hook you up with this one and that one, or they will see your ex and tell you how you guys should think about sorting your differences out so I will not be the single one in the group. Yes their hearts are in the right place and I thank them for that. I have been playing along in their theatre productions and enough is enough…
 
 So I have decided to embrace my singlehood and watching Sex and The City helps a lot too. But I am really embracing this single life, I have decided to look at it in a different way. What I have been doing before is walking around looking for Mr. Right, and when I say looking I mean everywhere even when I am not planning on looking. I will be in the church and during the sacriment I will be looking at the guys at church and thinking “wow his cute, his dressed really well and THANK GOD he goes to church!!” Maybe he could be the one as long as he notices me and stops me before I leave and asks for my number and we will live happily ever after!! FAIRY TALES.
 
That does not happen and at times this gets me down so I have decided that this will not be the case from now on. Today is the 15th of August (I will be posting this blog on the 17th cause I don’t have internet at home) 2009 and I am drawing this contract with myself and you who is reading as my witness that I will live the life of a single lady that is not desperate.
 
I will swim in my single pool. After all the single people are the ones that have the fun I will go out on dates. But the most important thing is whenever I step out of the house I will be looking fabulous from top to toe (FOR ME NOT FOR A MAN TO NOTICE ME), I will walk with my head held high and be ME. I have done enough of acting to last me a life time (I’m sure if I was in drama school I will have a PhD by now in Drama studies and won an Oscar) to impress a man. Some of us act differently when we around men trying to impress them, trying to be something or someone that you think he would like you to be ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!
 
 
 
 
  • I will not go around looking for man everywhere I go. If I am going to the mall let me shop my ass off and that be it
  • I will not change myself for another person especially a man
  • WILL LOOK FABULOUS EVERYDAY FOR ME! NO ONE ELSE
  • WILL ENJOY BEING SINGLE
  • WILL LEARN MORE ABOUT MYSELF AND WHAT I WANT AND NEED
 
Signed : Thandeka Mtshali
Date: From this day onwards
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# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF You go Girl!!!
 
Posted by bh2760 on 21 August 2009 @ 12:32PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF you got it ryt sista!!!! nothing beats being single,and happy...doing wat u wana do at your own time,going anywer u wana go and just enjoying the beauty of being YOU!!! wow wat can i say ...I LOVE MYSELF SOOOO MUCH
 
Posted by atsieco on 21 August 2009 @ 12:52PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF WOW... i like the way you put it....
 
Posted by namso on 21 August 2009 @ 02:00PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Amen sista. i like the way you think.
 
Posted by lmadondo on 21 August 2009 @ 03:29PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF .That is my girl,there is no better way to enjoy being single than to embrace it ,by doing all those things for yourself you are simply showing some LOVE to yourself (hoW SWEET),cz more often we do things to please others esp men at the expense of our happinnes.So you go girl ,please dont breach your contract cz when the time comes you wont even make an effort to see Mr Right.
 
Posted by wadzi on 21 August 2009 @ 04:48PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Hi Ms T M
WOW!!!!!WOW!!!!!!
You know i'm proud of u even if i dn't know u.You have completed my day.You posted this at the right time.it takes a lot of courage for us Woman to realise that coz we have this fear and we are scared to be labelled as "Single"

you go Gal....
cheers

 
Posted by nwabisas on 21 August 2009 @ 06:48PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF I love this contract it is on point. Trust me the best relationship you can have is with yourself. All the best.
Much love*
 
Posted by tokiso on 21 August 2009 @ 09:14PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF great contract!
 
Posted by whizzkid38 on 22 August 2009 @ 09:24AM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Nice contract girl, i can sign this one too.
 
Posted by mpumicele on 22 August 2009 @ 07:09PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Thandeka,I say thumbs up!!! Even when you meet someone,you should still love yourself first and be committed to you!! You go girl!!!!
 
Posted by nomndenip on 24 August 2009 @ 10:19AM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Thandeka thanks a lot for this contract, it's as if you are saying this to me because that's exactly what I have been doing, going to places hoping to meet a guy and yeah this has to end. Thank you sista!
 
Posted by booizan on 24 August 2009 @ 12:43PM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF I RELATE AND SHARE THESE SENTIMENTS COMPLETELY!!!!!!! THATS ME RIGHT THERE SISTA....THATS THE SPIRIT
 
Posted by katly on 26 August 2009 @ 08:32AM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Gals, you have no idea how much proud i am with all of you to take that step!!! i know u smart, clever, brave, independant, u name them, i cannot see a man in this life time having to complete your life, talking from experience,37 yrs old a mother of 3 and happily single, 2 yrs ago when i broke up with my man, having being in 10 yrs draining and emotionally abused relationship, i never thought i will make it. luckily i had to buy a house myself when i was with him, without him contributing a single cent, he had to move out with nothing, imagine if i had to start looking for apartment with 3 kids. that's what they do, kick you out with kids, they have no mercy. or though i know of 1 or 2 who have mercy. so all i can say is Big up SISTAS! a man of your dream will cum your way, you don't have to go chasing/looking. you will see!! but me i love my independence, i even find a hobby, just as an excuse for not dating, i will go out with my galfriends sometime to go have some drinks and dance on a table. don't care what they think, 'cause i'm not looking mos!!!
 
Posted by dtoks on 09 September 2009 @ 11:28AM
 
# re: A SINGLE LADYS' CONTRACT TO HERSELF Love the post. But girl never go out to impress a brother. Just be you and he will follow or he is on his way. Singles ladies doing it for themselves. This is a beautiful country with a lot of beautiful women -dont change yourself for any man you all far too precious for that. I cant lie I love this post:-)
 
Posted by verstehen on 13 October 2009 @ 07:59PM
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