I hadn’t been paying too much attention to the public lynching of DJ Sbu, until I was shown an online article, which referred to this week’s Sunday World cover story.

This particular article reports that Sbu doesn’t own the house he appeared in on Top Billing. The article was accompanied by links to related articles about his energy drink, relationship and driving – all negative. I assume that Sunday World prints these types of stories because they sell papers. If people weren’t eagerly consuming stories of Sbu’s mishaps and missteps, the paper wouldn’t bother to cover them.

This got me thinking about something a teacher once told me, which upon reflection I saw to be true, at least in my life. It is a tool I have been using ever since.

Put simply it is: A surefire way to determine how ready you are to bring about what you want, is how you feel towards people who are being, doing or have that which you want to be, do or have.

For example, if you want to be married, but instead of joy you feel only anger, envy or irritation when you see happily married couples or hear of someone’s engagement, you are not seeing yourself as someone who can be happily married.

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If you want to be rich, but rich people’s behaviour rubs you up the wrong way, you still do not believe that you are capable of doing what it takes to become rich.

If you want a baby, yet the painful pounding ache of your biological clock overrides the joy of seeing a mommy with her baby, you don’t yet believe that this is possible for you.

If you want to be highly educated and qualified, but when someone tells you about their PhD or MBA you roll your eyes, you don’t truly believe you can achieve that level of education.

Basically, every time you catch yourself ‘lynching’ someone, primarily because they have what you seek, you are not ready to be, do or have it yet.

Kagiso Msimango is a personal growth and transformation coach whose mission is to share uncommon knowledge and empowering tools. This article was republished, with the author’s permission, from The Goddess Academy blog.