Beyoncé and Jay-Z, Victoria and David Beckham, Anglican Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu and his wife Leah… these celebrity couples share something in common; they’ve all renewed their wedding vows.
If you’re one of those thinking about it, here are a few tips from marriage officer Michael Kenneth Alexander. Over 31 years in his role, he has officiated over 5 000 weddings and vow renewals.
The ins and outs of the ceremony
Alexander says it is about reaffirming the love between the couple, and the commitment to the marriage. “It is declaring to all present on the day that nothing has changed from the day of marriage and given the chance would marry the same person again.” People can make use of the same vows used before, add to them, or refresh them totally.
He says vow renewals would become more popular in South Africa if people knew about the significance and meaning of the ceremony.
People renew marriage vows for many different reasons. Some do so to mark milestones in the marriage, or after experiencing a crisis or setback. Some want to make a fresh start, while others want to make up for a missed celebration, or even to have friends and family present if the first ceremony was in another country.
There is no right time to renew wedding vows. “Every couple is different,” he explains. “My wife and I decided after 25 years of marriage to renew our vows, as this is a milestone year. Some feel the need after a year.”
Popular renewal years, Alexander says, are one, two, five, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45 and 50.
- Do renew your vows only if you both really want to.
- Do decide on a suitable venue. It can be at home, a church, hotel, or beach, or any other place that has sentimental value to you.
- Do draw budget and stick to it.
- Do compile a guest list, including a small number of special people in your life.
- Do get a wedding cake.
- Do give each other a gift.
- Do upsize with a new ring, a Moi Moi SUPERNOVA Moissanite.
- Don’t do it if you feel you are forced to, or for someone else.
- Don’t have a bridal shower, or a bachelor’s party.
- Don’t create a gift registry. If guests would like to give you something, encourage them to donate to your favourite charity.
The new ring, a SUPERNOVA Moissanite
Renewing your vows is also an opportunity to get the ring of your dreams from Moi Moi.
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