Be it on the TV screen, the red carpet or even social media, the chemistry between actress and model Nicole Ari Parker-Kodjoe (48) and her husband of 13 years, actor Boris Kodjoe (45), is palpable, leaving some singletons wondering how exactly they managed to find each other.

Responding to an Instagram follower @taetoomer on Thursday, who asked: “Can we get the prayer you said for Boris??!!??”, the Soul Food actress took the time to break it down, listing all the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual characteristics she looked for in her ideal man.

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Parker-Kodjoe took it a step further, however, sharing what she had to do to prepare herself for such a partner. From examining her issues and going to therapy, working out, renewing her passport and most importantly, loving herself, the mother of two highlighted how she had to ready herself.

The post, which has received over 40 000 likes, saw her followers responding with thanks, with @shaythelegacy saying: “Nailed it! This right here! The part where you work on yourself tho’! 💜👏🏾”

See the prayer she used below:

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Me: Dear Lord, What should I do? GOD: Make a list. Me: A list? GOD: Yes. Write down EVERYTHING you want. Even the parts you don't want me to see. 😒 Me: okay. 💛 GOD: The spiritual stuff, the heart & mental stuff, the physical and the financial. 💛 Me: 😲umm okay: Loving, warm, WANTS to be a husband & father, Fine 😜, WANTS to provide, mentally, physically and spiritually strong, AFFECTIONATE, curious about the world, likes to travel, likes music, likes history, likes art, likes the theatre, big hands, big feet🤔, sexy, really smart, funny, fun, got jokes, makes the highest & best choices for himself, has that "no-matter-what-I-got-this" spirit cause ish is gonna happen, respects his mother, forgives his father, loves himself and knows God. 💛 GOD: Okay now REALLY take that in. SEE him, FEEL him in your mind. SIT WITH THAT…ENJOY THAT..Now ask yourself.. Is he perfect for you? Me: (inhales and exhales deeply) Yes..Lawd..I mean Lord. YES. GOD: Now ask yourself… if he enters the room RIGHT now..Are you perfect for him? Me: (takes reallyyy long pause)…..Proceeds to get mind right & affairs in order, rereads Their Eyes Were Watching God, goes to therapy, examines issues, forgives herself & others, calls parents more often, renews passport, goes to church, does a sit up and goes for a run, dusts off that business idea i had🤔, remembers to laugh, buys nice lotion and rubs it all over body EVERYDAY, then buys some more, stays grateful for all her parts, cherishes friends, dances in her room, balances checkbook, makes green juice, loves herself. (Sidebar: At that point…after all that..i was good either way..happy, confident and moisturized.) 💛 and THEN here he comes… 💛 GOD: Boop.

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